Experts Reveal Surprising Way to Help Men Maximize Sexual Pleasure
Most of us men have been told that the keys to sexual pleasure lie in being more “manly” in one way or another. Whether that is being more sexually aggressive, having bulging muscles, having a larger penis, or any number of other measures of “manliness”.
But top experts and researchers reveal that’s not the case.
In fact, many of those “macho myths” hurt men’s sexual pleasure rather than help.
In today’s article we’re going to debunk several of those top myths. And we’ll turn to some of the world’s authorities on the subjects to explain why those myths are just plain wrong.
Myth 1: Real Men Don’t Have Erection Problems
That’s one of the biggest macho myths out there. The reality is that erection problems are much more common than most people think. Plenty of real men face this problem at some point.
Sexual dysfunction is so common that the National Institutes of Health says that over 30 million men in the US have some form of erectile dysfunction. And this number is probably low. Why? Because many men are shy when it comes to talking about this issue.
Dr. Marc Siegelbaum, a renowned urologist at St. Joseph’s Medical Center in Baltimore claims that most men have ED and other sexual problems at some point. According to him, the underlying problem is not the manliness of the man. Dr. Siegelbaum says it is almost always an underlying physical or physiological issue – a medical issue and not a manliness issue.
Dr. Siegelbaum and other experts in the field say that the secret to improving sexual pleasure when it comes to sexual dysfunction is speaking openly and getting help.
Myth 2: Real Men Think About Sex All the Time
A real macho man has an insatiable sexual appetite and can never stop thinking about sex, right? Not at all, as it turns out.
A recent study conducted by Ohio State University evaluated almost 300 healthy, virile young men. They found that men thought about sex about 18 times per day. That might seem like a lot, but it’s not. In fact, it was not anywhere near how much they thought about food and sleep. This pops the bubble about macho men always having sex on the brain.
The experts in the field say that there’s no standard that all men should be held to. What matters is how you feel. If you are troubled by a decline in libido, seek help. But you don’t need to be preoccupied with sex more often than you want to.
Myth 3: Real Men Are Sexual Conquerors
Real men’s obsession with sex takes them on missions of sexual conquest, running around bedding down as many women as possible, right? Nope, wrong again.
In a recent survey of nearly 30,000 men, less than 3 percent said sexual conquests were a contributing factor in their masculinity. Over one-third of the men said “honor” was the number one factor that defined their masculinity.
Researchers determined that sexual conquest was more of a factor, and a concern, for teenage boys and men in their early twenties. Older men generally viewed sexual conquest as a juvenile obsession.
Myth 4: Real Men Don’t Get Depressed
For many years society has viewed depression as a woman’s disease. The reality, of course, is that depression can affect anyone. The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) says almost 6 million men in the US get diagnosed with depression every year. It’s clear this debilitating mental health condition is not gender biased.
Researchers at the NIMH say they see depression in all kinds of men for all kinds of reasons. For example, it might be due to chronic stress in their lives. Job problems or job loss, marriage troubles, problems with their children, or financial difficulties. Obviously, all these problems can affect any kind of man.
Why is this particular myth so dangerous? It turns out that due to the stigma attached to male depression, lots of men stay quiet about their condition. And because men are more reluctant to get treatment, the true number of men with depression is much higher than the number reported.
Myth 5: Real Men Have Marathon Sex Sessions
When a macho-man makes a sexual conquest the sex goes on for hours, involving many “sessions” during the night. Not really, it turns out.
The truth is far less dramatic and impressive. In fact several recent surveys suggest that the average sexual session lasts anywhere from three to ten minutes. In fact, researchers say that marathon sexual sessions are very uncommon.
Experts in the field agree that the key to maximizing sexual pleasure is to communicate well with your sexual partner. Seek for mutual satisfaction.
Myth 6: Real Men Have Bigger Equipment
This is probably the biggest myth of them all. The myth about penis size and a woman’s satisfaction has been around for many decades, if not longer.
Dr. Drogo Montague of the Glickman Urological and Kidney Institute of the Cleveland Clinic says it’s simply not true. He says men’s perceived need for a bigger penis to please a woman is a common misconception, especially in American society. The myth holds that bigger is better, but it just isn’t true from a woman’s perspective, according to Dr. Montague.
In fact, there are some men who become obsessed with this myth. The medical term is body dysmorphia – the obsession about an imagined physical defect. These men become fanatical about the size of their penis. In fact, in extreme cases they are referred to specialists who are familiar with the psychological aspects of this obsession.
Society and the media have done a great job making many of us men feel somewhat inferior when it comes to what makes a “real man”. But as you can see from the myth busting above, most of it is just a load of bull.
My advice is to stop sweating the small stuff and be confident and happy in who you really are as a man. That will give you far greater sexual pleasure than trying to be more of a man - which you’ve now seen is a ridiculous notion.